Wouldn't it be frustrating if every time we made a mistake, someone was there to point it out? That would drive me crazy. I am usually well aware when I mess up. The last thing I want/need is someone making a big deal about it. All. The. Time
Mistakes are part of life. We have all made mistakes, and we will make more. The important part about mistakes, is to learn from them.
When it comes to our children, we have to be careful. We don't want them to feel like all we do is point out all the things they are doing wrong. Instead, we need to help them learn from their mistakes.
Learning from our mistakes is a vital part of growing up. In fact, research shows us that kids learn more from making mistakes, then taking the easy route and getting everything correct all the time.
Here is what we need to keep in mind when it comes to our kids and their mishaps.
- Be patient. Don't scoff and sigh.
- Acknowledge that you don't expect your children to be perfect. Praise effort.
- Make it clear your love is unconditional, regardless of their mistakes. Never withhold a hug.
- Don't rescue children from their mistakes. Instead, help them focus on the solution. Change the focus.
- Share examples of your own mistakes. What happened. What did you learn? Let them know you can relate and understand.
- Encourage them to take responsibility. Don't pass the buck.
- Stick with the consequences. Don't be a push over.
- Avoid pointing out their past mistakes. Focus on the moment.
- Praise them for their ability to admit their mistakes. Say thank you.
- Teach children what to do when they make a mistake. How do you right the wrong?
- Help them find the silver lining. What can be learned?
- Evaluate. How do we handle our mistakes. Are we setting a good example?
- Keep a sense of humor. Laughter is good medicine.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE?
DO YOU MAKE YOUR KIDS APOLOGIZE?