tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6164299303744327866.post1181452057758848767..comments2024-03-29T03:30:03.192-06:00Comments on Family Volley: Tired in Bed-It's Rated "G", PromiseHeather Johnson-Family Volleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06752545405509751750noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6164299303744327866.post-69706246506148667162010-04-19T13:13:25.961-06:002010-04-19T13:13:25.961-06:00Thanks for the reminder about honesty and open con...Thanks for the reminder about honesty and open conversation.<br /><br />Several months after giving birth to my son, my husband was getting very frustrated with me and my lack of interest. When we finally spoke about what my blocks were (fear of pain - I had lots of tearing, discomfort - with nursing, tiredness - this is still the huge issue, I wake in the middle of the night to nurse and he sleeps and wasn't even aware of how much sleep I was losing.) And what I needed to make it happen (help crossing things off the list.) Things improved a lot. <br />And its true, physical intimacy leads to kinder actions and kind actions lead to a desire for physical intimacy. At first it sounded so old school (Dr. Laura) and frustrating and entirely not feminist, but its not about theory, its about real life and what makes us as a couple happy and healthy.ThreeLeggedIceSkaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10145752701338755520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6164299303744327866.post-12331777090761756092010-04-19T13:09:19.221-06:002010-04-19T13:09:19.221-06:00I love the fact that you mentioned a solid bedtime...I love the fact that you mentioned a solid bedtime for kids. We stick to a solid bedtime here at our home for our little ones. The two little ones are in bed at 7:30 (ages 2.5 & 4) and our oldest is in bed at 8:30. Kids need a good nights sleep to grow and learn properly. I have found this to be the greatest thing for my husband & I when it comes to spending time together. It always takes me a few minutes to relax after they go to bed. Once I've had a few minutes to adjust, it's my husband & I's special time. Sometimes we listen to music while we both work on separate projects in the same room. Other times we snuggle and talk. We always make time for "connecting". Although the current budget doesn't allow for many dates & having a diabetic child makes finding a sitter hard, we still try to do special things together kid free. We will celebrate our 5 year anniversary this July & I have to say the spark is still there. I adore him a little more as each day passes. He is a wonderful husband & has grown into the best father. More than I could have ever hoped for when we first married. I feel very blessed.Artfulifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08642508375303005426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6164299303744327866.post-70337006754675551602010-04-19T09:04:57.202-06:002010-04-19T09:04:57.202-06:00After being married three years and having two sur...After being married three years and having two surprise pregnancies because the birth control and nursing failed, I was afraid. What if I get pregnant again was always going through my head. I had a hard time healing from the epidural up to six months after I had Abbie last year, and I was not interested in being close. At all. Kissing still made me feel queasy like I had morning sickness and I did not want to be touched. My husband was getting frustrated with the situation and resentment on both sides was setting in. I realized that I had to make the change and decided that even though I may not want certain things, he did. As I tried and made an effort, it came to a point where it was no longer something that I was just enduring but wanting. Nothing is perfect, but that was a major hurdle that I needed to jump over and let go of. Now as we work on our relationship in other areas, we can see that they affect or improve intimacy and our love.Amanda Joy Petersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03442561632262548306noreply@blogger.com