I have this routine at the end of everyday. As I lay in bed I think about how I did as a mom that day. Was I patient, kind, sensitive? Did I work hard, fulfill responsibilities? You know, was today acceptable? Usually the answer is a loud and clear,
Argh, You Can Do Better!!! Not usually, always.
One thing that I have been working on is being more spontaneous, more fun. I am the one that is always thinking about the responsibilities and what needs to be done. My husband on the other hand, is the one who is always ready for no responsibility and lots of fun. Our kids know that. I didn't even have to tell them.
Tonight as a climb into bed, although there will be plenty of "You can do better", This morning something went right.
While doing my daughters hair, she asked if I would teach her how to do a ponytail, by herself.
My first thought, not today, we don't have time. Tuesdays are our busy days, not to mention my plate was extra full finishing all the end of the semester grading. Ponytails were not on the agenda.
She asked again, only this time with her eyes. Eyes that begged to spend some time, just us. I couldn't deny the eyes.
So for the next two hours we practiced and practiced and practiced. We laughed, we sang, we made up stories. I learned a lot about her, the time flew by, we had fun.
I was again reminded, the agenda doesn't matter, but the child does.
And when all was said and done, her ponytails weren't too bad either.