Did you know that kids who are selfish and spoiled are less satisfied with their lives? Spoiled kids have more trouble with relationships, they are less happy, less popular and more likely to be depressed. They also argue more with their parents, AND they develop into less happy adults.
It is normal for children to be a little self centered. Young children need reminders to share and wait their turn because they are thinking only of themselves. Elementary school children develop competitiveness which makes them more self centered in their thinking and feelings. Junior high kids tend to only think of themselves and the need they have to fit in with their peers. Their selfish and spoiled feelings mean they are willing to gossip, back bit, and put others down to get attention.
Remember though, research shows that children are born with a desire to be kind and care for others. This desire will diminish if we as parents don't cultivate the right type of environment.
Do you know a child that thinks the world revolves around them? Do they always want more, are never satisfied, and have no patience to wait. Do you know a child who feels their self-worth is determined by material possessions? Do you know a child who can't take "no" for an answer? (hum, I do) :)
We all know of a child, or have a child of our own who exhibits some or all of the above characteristics. It is pretty normal for all children to go though selfish phases. The key is to stop the behavior before it gets out of hand.
Do you want a child who is considerate of other's needs, and realizes that there are more important things in this world than getting the newest toy, or the newest fashion trend?
Stay tuned. Family Volley is going to address kids who are a bit too spoiled and a tad on the selfish side. The suggestions will be perfect, whether you feel your child needs to change ( a lot or a little, it's never too late), or you just want to start your young one off on the right foot.
Kids who can consider other's feelings, and are not "constantly indulged", are happier kids.
Let me know if there are any individual questions or concerns you have with this topic and I will see what I can do to cover them over the next couple days.